I’m no stranger to being caught up in my head. In fact, it was only a few years ago was OCD and had mental health concerns that made me feel trapped and stuck in a helpless place.
Through awareness and inner work I began to re-program my mind and change those old stories that I had been replaying for too many years.
Now I live by these eight steps, they have become my principles and standards and a new way of life:
Step 1: Love yourself unconditionally and acknowledging who you want to be
This was a steep learning curve for me. I hadn’t ever focused on myself, I had spent 30+ years taking care of my disabled daughter I had forgotten who I was and never even considered the woman I wanted to be.
Step 2: Remove limitations and take action to explore what’s possible
This was the biggest obstacle I had to overcome. My mindset full of limitations, excuses and reasons as to why I couldn’t be, do or have the things I wanted.
Over time I began to question these stories and break the hold they had over me. I focused on what I DID want (not what I didn’t have) and took steps to move forward towards the things that lit me up, brought me joy and make me feel fulfilled and happy.
It was a slow process but over time life dramatically changed and as a result I am now living the lifestyle I desire - travel, empowerment, adventure and fun!
Step 3: Become a more authentic version of you to create the life you want
When you dismiss your dreams, deny your desires and give up on the things you want - you are dishonouring who you are and what you were designed for. Every time you do this, your confidence drops and the excuses get louder. In order to find and embrace who you are it starts with listening to the voice within and actioning where it is guiding you. This leads you to the life you want. Say YES to yourself more often!
Step 4: Make decisions that are best for you, and loving to others without conditions
When pursuing my desires, I am always mindful of how this affects others. Especially my family. I always give of myself when I am at home whether it’s baby sitting for my daughter, supporting my father or being available for my husband and children.
As much as I priortise my joy (travel, experiences and empowering women) I also recognise the many roles I play. Life is a balance.
Step 5: Do what you love
Start small. Ask yourself what brings you joy and makes you feel happy… then go do that. It may be something little like going to the museum by yourself or taking off for a day to a location away from home to some quality me-time and pampering. Follow the little moments that bring you joy and your energy and inspiration will elevate leading you to other ideas which activate an inspired life.
Step 6: Travel and experience the world and all it has to offer
This is by far one of my most favourite steps. My life changed dramatically when I attended my first retreat in Bali, it shifted again with my first tour in Egypt. The world opens your eyes to possibilities and limitless potential. This is why I love to take women away from home (and their comfort zone) and to amazing places around the world because of what it activated inside of me. It’s unexplainable.
Step 7: Be happy whilst moving towards your true potential
As you grow and develop in order to call in a more fulfilling and happy life, always be grateful and thankful for the things you do have. It’s a balance of thankfulness, combined with the desire of wanting more, that uplevels you.
Step 8: Continue to dream about what you want your life to be
Visualisation is powerful. Create a vision board of all the things you desire to create (be, do and have) and visualise yourself daily experiencing this as your reality. This will spark the desire within you to continue to move towards these dreams. Rather than focus on your current circumstances, have faith and expectation that the things you desire are already yours and from this place take aligned actions towards this vision.
I hope these principles inspire you to go after the things you want, even if this begins with small changes in how you think and what you do in your daily life.
All my love,
Kathy x
